|Posted on June 14, 2010 at 1:59 PM|
Wow, in mentoring other women that have been victims of abuse, I can't believe the number of young women that I come across that are actually attempting suicide. Sadly, some of them even succeed.
Even being aware if the statistics that say that 1 in 4 women is sexually abused, it boggles my mind that there are so many and I have to think that the statistics are actually much higher.
When I talk to these women that are feeling suicidal and they tell me their stories, I can't say that I blame them for wanting out, but at the same time I know that there is healing for them. The horrors bestowed on these women by sick, evil men still shocks me. How could any human being with even a shred of decency treat another human with such carelessness? They must now know the damage they cause, or care. Purely selfish in their actions, they just go along and do what they want with helpless children.
I also have to wonder where these young girls get the pills that they use to try and end their lives. It is unfortunate that we seem to be living in an age where it is imperative that adults lock up their medication. I can only assume that is where the pills come from.
There has to be a better way to reach these young women and teach them other ways to deal with their pain. Cutting themselves to release the pain, swallowing pills. Are these the only ways they know? It appears to me that it is, but with some I have been able to show them other ways.
The most effective ways I have found start with talking about what has happened to them. They have kept the secret so long, but when I talk to other young women that they are friends with, I find that they have common experiences. They are so afraid of being rejected by their friends that they keep it inside, not knowing that their friend would totally relate to what they are feeling.
The next thing I try to teach them is to write out their feelings. These writings are not for showing to anyone, just to express what they are and get them out so that they don't keep them bottled up. It has worked wonders for me and the ones that actually try it say that it helps them too.
We must be aware of the behaviours of the young girls around us, before they get to the point of suicide. Keep medications locked up. Look for cuts or scars on their bodies, particularly their arms and legs and if you even suspect abuse, talk to them. If you don't know how to talk to them, email me and I will try to help you find the words, or get them to a professional. So many lives are being lost unnecessarily, if they only knew how to deal with the abuse and heal from it they would see that life can be happy.
For a list of after effects to watch for see blog post "list of after effects for survivors"